Please Use Anything Else Other Than SMS

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Whether you like Facebook or not, you have got to give it to Facebook for making an amazing purchase with Beluga, a group messaging service that competed with GroupMe at SXSWi in 2010.

The key to a group messaging app is market share. SMS always wins out because it is ubiquitous to all platforms. The problem is that SMS costs money (and a lot of it), and only works on phones. iMessage was supposed to take over SMS, and got close, but it only works with iOS devices.

I’m hoping that Google Babble (or whatever they will call it) meets the cross platform, reliable, feature rich, and ease of use requirements that I want and Facebook messenger has.

Facebook messenger is everything it needs to be. 1 billion people use facebook. They can see the message on their phone or their computer. They can choose to receive the messages as SMS, or use data. You have have large groups. You can have read receipts. You can send photos, You can send links. You can send videos.

The only downfall is that you have to use Facebook, and I only say that liberally. You have to have an account. TechCrunch reports that you don’t need an account, and can sign up with SMS only. http://techcrunch.com/2012/12/04/messenger-no-facebook-account/ In reality it is simpler to make an account, with nothing in it.

Just make a simple Facebook account.

Everyone then tells me, that what is the purpose, just use SMS, GroupMe, WhatsApp, or any other messaging program. The simple answer is that other people won’t use them. I’ve learned that people will only do what is convenient for them. I’ve long extolled how great Google+ is, but I still get bullied that it is a ghost town.

Even if you don’t use facebook, just have the account. Don’t use it for anything except messenger. Facebook can’t steal or use your data for nefarious purposes if there is no data there.

I also love facebook for oAuth. It allows one click login instead of typing some crazy long password on a mobile phone.

1) Edit your profile to just your name and photo. I like putting my email and Google Voice number there so people have them quickly accessible. I keep slightly more information there. I figure it is all so public at this point that who cares if my birthday gets leaked (I actually changed it by one day to see who really knew my birthday).

2) Go to preferences and disable your wall. Remember you aren’t there to socially network, but rather to use Facebook messenger. Your wall is no longer relevant.

3) Delete your wall posts.  Obviously, you don’t want old posts of you lingering around.  They will never go away, but it will be much harder to dig up.

4) Delete the people you will probably never really speak to. (I‘ve complained about this before). I thought that having friends, even remote ones, will be beneficial later on when I need a favor, but people can’t even wish you a happy birthday when told to.

5) Delete all pictures that you don’t want public, including tagged photos. While you are at it, turn on the setting that forces you to approve it).

6) Delete all the apps that you don’t use. The ones you do use, check their extra permissions so that they don’t post on your behalf.  http://mypermissions.org is great for this.

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Wanted: Friends; Requirements: Be Friendly

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After my last post asking for a way to contact you, I thought about what friendship is.  Recently my friends have been moving away, and I’m left looking to add to my core set of friends.  It got me thinking about what I want in a friendship.

To be honest, there isn’t a checklist to be my friend, but rather a mantra:  ’Just Be Friendly!”  All I want is someone who understands what friendship is, and acts friendly.  If someone calls, return their calls in a timely matter.  If they ask for your opinion, give it to them.  If they want to hang out, hang out with them.  I understand we are all busy, or have other obligations, but a good friend will explain to them, rather than hide behind the dreaded “I’m busy.”

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Give Me a Way to Contact You: A Rant

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The image says it all, albeit in the exact opposite context that I want.  There are eight ways I can contact you, but you choose to ignore all of them.

I’m upset that all these ways of contacting someone, leads to another full, or ignored inbox that still doesn’t get a response.

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A Rant About Sharing Circles

I love Google+, but I’m sure you know that already.  However it does have its issues, just like any other social network.  In trying to find people to communicate with the issue of sharing circles has really bothered me.  The only other idea like sharing circles that I can think of is #FollowFriday and Retweeting or Share.  But if you want to find a group of people, Google created a share circle feature.  The technical implementation is very good, but the problem is the human element.

So in trying to be more friendly, I’ve accepted circles on topics I am interested in, such as Android people, Nexus people, and fitness people but each time I am disappointed.

It seems like people are just aggregating people to put in their list.  Does that 500 person circle really have 500 people who are passionate about Android?

Here are the people I see:
30 – 50 active people who I’m thankful for finding.
30 – 50 people who don’t post EVER in my language
20 – 30 Pages (not people)
250 people who have posted once.
100 people who posted once about said topic, and then have never posted about said topic ever again.

What I end up doing is putting them in a “test folder” then moving them away into proper circles.  Generally, I look at someone’s profile after they have circled me back, and make my decision.  Unpopular as it is, but I want people with my interests.  I also want people who have spent the time to follow me back.

Since I’ve accepted circles, most of them I have just deleted because they are filled with too much dead weight.  I want the people who comment, engage, and are a positive asset to the community.  I sure hope that I am setting the engagement example.

All I ask is that if you post a circle, please curate it so all of us get the best people to follow.

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InThirty.net – The Mother of All Bloggers

 

The Mother of All Bloggers

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You think you know everything there is to know about Mommy Blogs? Think again.
The Mother of All Bloggers (a title proudly bestowed by the inThirty team) Elizabeth Norton joins us to discuss to how she uses technology to keep in touch with a close nit group of fellow mothers. Elizabeth, without a single pregnant pause, takes us through her method of keeping her offline and online worlds in balance and lets us in on the secret of the best way to get Play-Doh out of a USB port.

Thank you Elizabeth!

Show Notes

ElizabethNorton.com | Website

Elizabeth Norton | Google+

inThirty.net – When Will SMS Die?

 

On today’s inThirty we hash out the history and the future of instant messaging.

We finally made it to iTunes.  I think that makes us legit.

inThirty.net is a new podcast hosted by @justinfreid , @harrycmarks , and @chaimtime.  Each week our goal is to bring you the news in under thirty minutes.

 

 

The Fight Between the Three Major Social Networks

Before I start, I think this graph is ultra biased.  1000+ days ago was 2008.  Facebook was released in parts first to college, then to high school, then to entities.  Twitter was created in 2006, to the still lingering question, “What do I do with this.” Google being the number 1 search engine by a huge margin, has been creating rumors about their social network. When it finally came out, of course EVERYONE wanted to try it.   Now the question is, “Which one of these services is going to suffer?”

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Google + May Finally Have the Buzz to Topple Facebook [UPDATED 1]

Thanks XKCD

 

UPDATE:  Just had a long talk with @justinfreid, about this.

I’m rushing this post out, but I’m really impressed by what I see.   What I’m talking about is google+.  Google’s answer to social networking, and I think that google not only hit it out of the park, but hit it out of the stratosphere.  Being so nascent, hidden features will come, but this is what I see:

 

First, how did I get an invite.  If google planned this, then it was genius.  They gave invites to the celebrities.  This is standard operating procedure.  Then they opened up the floodgates, but allowing invites.  Not just 10 invites, but an unlimited number (I must have invited 30+ people without it blinking).  This allowed the people who wanted in to be in, and invite those who they thought were useful to join.  Immediately after, Lifehacker.com posts invites, and everyone joined.  In 20 minutes, I had four friends, already posting, +1″ing,” adding photos, and commenting.  Within the hour, I was “hanging out.”

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Are Location Based Services Finished?

I am sitting at Costco for the third time this week, thinking to myself, “How come I am not mayor?”  Not only, why am I not mayor, but how come I’m not within ten check ins of becoming mayor.   How is that possible?  This exact scenario is happening to me at Planet Fitness, a place I visit 3 or 4 days a week.

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How I use Facebook

Facebook is a social NETWORK, emphasis on Network.  Social is what you define as it.  Some people decide that it is the closest x number of friends, and goes all the way to, I will friend everyone in an attempt to show that I have more friends than you.  Where is the middle?  What is the policy that makes Facebook the most useful?

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