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Photo Sharing, My Child, an It’s Privacy: Rambling On


Even before my son was born, I was stuck with the dilemma of how to show everyone who wanted to see photos, the photos I took. I’m a very security minded person, and the last thing I want to do is put my son in the public eye. It is fine if I do it, but my son, should have at least a choice. Children born in the Facebook era, are in the public spotlight from when they are born. By the age of thirteen, when they are finally able to use the internet, most of their milestones have been publicly documented (including the answers to their security questions).

I am really against all the moms and dads that lost their individuality because they want to everyone to see photos of their kids.  I’m friends with the adults, not the child(ren).  I don’t mean to sound harsh, but I when there are facebook extensions to remove baby pictures, I think it cross the line into a ‘thing.’

With security being the enemy of convenience, I have to manage both.  I need to make it easy for people to access and easy for me to post, but I make sure it is secure.  I don’t want the photos easily accessible by people I don’t want. Rolling my own photo service makes viewing photos a burden, but I control who sees it. Using an ubiquitous service makes it easily accessible to all, but not secure. With all the public services, I am aware that nothing will do everything what I want, nor will they not be stealing my (child’s) information.

The other issue that I have is I don’t want all my ‘friends’ seeing the photos.  I only want a certain subset of them (close friends and family) to see the photos.  On an aside, I find it strange by how many people want to see baby photos.  Maybe I’m weird.  I understand babies are cute, but I don’t need millions of photos.  I really want the control. Control is more important that simple.

I’ve decided to use Google+, not because I’m a fanboy. I decided because I think Google took the right approach in sharing. The circle concept has been very successful, and from privacy settings were apparent from the start. People who want photos can get it, and those who don’t won’t. The photo editing has only been getting better, and the album view has really improved. I can also share out of Google+ without a hassle. I can take an album and set permissions to only people with said link.

Not to mention that Google Glass integrates very well with Google+.  The photos get backed up, and easily allow sharing from all my devices.

Dropbox has also emerged as a competitor in a different way.  I give family a link to the shared folder.  In the meantime, any photo my wife and I upload we stick in dropbox.  My family can then see all the photos.  I can sort of do the same with others, but it gets to be cumbersome.

If you have spoken to me at all regarding my social networking habits you know that I am not a fan of Facebook. I’ve gotten to a point that I some photos, some public knowledge information, and almost no details about myself. I purely use it for Facebook Messenger, and to keep in touch with friends. I don’t have my favorite books, or movies. I don’t have more than a handful of photos. I reject most tags of myself, and refuse to allow anything other than some innocuous posts. I just don’t trust Facebook. There were always security and privacy concerns that have always rubbed me the wrong way. With that said, I don’t want pictures of my child on there.

Because I have to use Facebook if I want my friends and family to see my photos, I will link the G+ album to a Facebook post. It is the easiest way of posting on facebook, but leaving it without content. Facebook to my knowledge doesn’t scrape the photos of a link.

Twitter is just not an option. The feature set does not allow albums.

Instagram also has the same problem as twitter.

Flickr was an option, and a decent one at that. However, I was never a Flickr fan, nor are any of my friends. Plus the pro account, costs money. So while Flickr should be the obvious choice, nobody, not even me uses, Flickr. So many years of neglect, didn’t help either.

My personal site was an option, but there is too much overhead for me. There is too much work for me for a photo here or there.

After rambling, it is important to remember that I want to keep the photos and exposure of my child as controlled as possible.

Please Use Anything Else Other Than SMS


Whether you like Facebook or not, you have got to give it to Facebook for making an amazing purchase with Beluga, a group messaging service that competed with GroupMe at SXSWi in 2010.

The key to a group messaging app is market share. SMS always wins out because it is ubiquitous to all platforms. The problem is that SMS costs money (and a lot of it), and only works on phones. iMessage was supposed to take over SMS, and got close, but it only works with iOS devices.

I’m hoping that Google Babble (or whatever they will call it) meets the cross platform, reliable, feature rich, and ease of use requirements that I want and Facebook messenger has.

Facebook messenger is everything it needs to be. 1 billion people use facebook. They can see the message on their phone or their computer. They can choose to receive the messages as SMS, or use data. You have have large groups. You can have read receipts. You can send photos, You can send links. You can send videos.

The only downfall is that you have to use Facebook, and I only say that liberally. You have to have an account. TechCrunch reports that you don’t need an account, and can sign up with SMS only. http://techcrunch.com/2012/12/04/messenger-no-facebook-account/ In reality it is simpler to make an account, with nothing in it.

Just make a simple Facebook account.

Everyone then tells me, that what is the purpose, just use SMS, GroupMe, WhatsApp, or any other messaging program. The simple answer is that other people won’t use them. I’ve learned that people will only do what is convenient for them. I’ve long extolled how great Google+ is, but I still get bullied that it is a ghost town.

Even if you don’t use facebook, just have the account. Don’t use it for anything except messenger. Facebook can’t steal or use your data for nefarious purposes if there is no data there.

I also love facebook for oAuth. It allows one click login instead of typing some crazy long password on a mobile phone.

1) Edit your profile to just your name and photo. I like putting my email and Google Voice number there so people have them quickly accessible. I keep slightly more information there. I figure it is all so public at this point that who cares if my birthday gets leaked (I actually changed it by one day to see who really knew my birthday).

2) Go to preferences and disable your wall. Remember you aren’t there to socially network, but rather to use Facebook messenger. Your wall is no longer relevant.

3) Delete your wall posts.  Obviously, you don’t want old posts of you lingering around.  They will never go away, but it will be much harder to dig up.

4) Delete the people you will probably never really speak to. (I‘ve complained about this before). I thought that having friends, even remote ones, will be beneficial later on when I need a favor, but people can’t even wish you a happy birthday when told to.

5) Delete all pictures that you don’t want public, including tagged photos. While you are at it, turn on the setting that forces you to approve it).

6) Delete all the apps that you don’t use. The ones you do use, check their extra permissions so that they don’t post on your behalf.  http://mypermissions.org is great for this.

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Wanted: Friends; Requirements: Be Friendly


After my last post asking for a way to contact you, I thought about what friendship is.  Recently my friends have been moving away, and I’m left looking to add to my core set of friends.  It got me thinking about what I want in a friendship.

To be honest, there isn’t a checklist to be my friend, but rather a mantra:  ‘Just Be Friendly!”  All I want is someone who understands what friendship is, and acts friendly.  If someone calls, return their calls in a timely matter.  If they ask for your opinion, give it to them.  If they want to hang out, hang out with them.  I understand we are all busy, or have other obligations, but a good friend will explain to them, rather than hide behind the dreaded “I’m busy.”

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Give Me a Way to Contact You: A Rant



The image says it all, albeit in the exact opposite context that I want.  There are eight ways I can contact you, but you choose to ignore all of them.

I’m upset that all these ways of contacting someone, leads to another full, or ignored inbox that still doesn’t get a response.

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A Rant About Sharing Circles

I love Google+, but I’m sure you know that already.  However it does have its issues, just like any other social network.  In trying to find people to communicate with the issue of sharing circles has really bothered me.  The only other idea like sharing circles that I can think of is #FollowFriday and Retweeting or Share.  But if you want to find a group of people, Google created a share circle feature.  The technical implementation is very good, but the problem is the human element.

So in trying to be more friendly, I’ve accepted circles on topics I am interested in, such as Android people, Nexus people, and fitness people but each time I am disappointed.

It seems like people are just aggregating people to put in their list.  Does that 500 person circle really have 500 people who are passionate about Android?

Here are the people I see:
30 – 50 active people who I’m thankful for finding.
30 – 50 people who don’t post EVER in my language
20 – 30 Pages (not people)
250 people who have posted once.
100 people who posted once about said topic, and then have never posted about said topic ever again.

What I end up doing is putting them in a “test folder” then moving them away into proper circles.  Generally, I look at someone’s profile after they have circled me back, and make my decision.  Unpopular as it is, but I want people with my interests.  I also want people who have spent the time to follow me back.

Since I’ve accepted circles, most of them I have just deleted because they are filled with too much dead weight.  I want the people who comment, engage, and are a positive asset to the community.  I sure hope that I am setting the engagement example.

All I ask is that if you post a circle, please curate it so all of us get the best people to follow.


InThirty.net – The Mother of All Bloggers


The Mother of All Bloggers

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You think you know everything there is to know about Mommy Blogs? Think again.
The Mother of All Bloggers (a title proudly bestowed by the inThirty team) Elizabeth Norton joins us to discuss to how she uses technology to keep in touch with a close nit group of fellow mothers. Elizabeth, without a single pregnant pause, takes us through her method of keeping her offline and online worlds in balance and lets us in on the secret of the best way to get Play-Doh out of a USB port.

Thank you Elizabeth!

Show Notes

ElizabethNorton.com | Website

Elizabeth Norton | Google+

inThirty.net – When Will SMS Die?


On today’s inThirty we hash out the history and the future of instant messaging.

We finally made it to iTunes.  I think that makes us legit.

inThirty.net is a new podcast hosted by @justinfreid , @harrycmarks , and @chaimtime.  Each week our goal is to bring you the news in under thirty minutes.



The Fight Between the Three Major Social Networks

Before I start, I think this graph is ultra biased.  1000+ days ago was 2008.  Facebook was released in parts first to college, then to high school, then to entities.  Twitter was created in 2006, to the still lingering question, “What do I do with this.” Google being the number 1 search engine by a huge margin, has been creating rumors about their social network. When it finally came out, of course EVERYONE wanted to try it.   Now the question is, “Which one of these services is going to suffer?”

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Google + May Finally Have the Buzz to Topple Facebook [UPDATED 1]

Thanks XKCD


UPDATE:  Just had a long talk with @justinfreid, about this.

I’m rushing this post out, but I’m really impressed by what I see.   What I’m talking about is google+.  Google’s answer to social networking, and I think that google not only hit it out of the park, but hit it out of the stratosphere.  Being so nascent, hidden features will come, but this is what I see:


First, how did I get an invite.  If google planned this, then it was genius.  They gave invites to the celebrities.  This is standard operating procedure.  Then they opened up the floodgates, but allowing invites.  Not just 10 invites, but an unlimited number (I must have invited 30+ people without it blinking).  This allowed the people who wanted in to be in, and invite those who they thought were useful to join.  Immediately after, Lifehacker.com posts invites, and everyone joined.  In 20 minutes, I had four friends, already posting, +1″ing,” adding photos, and commenting.  Within the hour, I was “hanging out.”

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Are Location Based Services Finished?

I am sitting at Costco for the third time this week, thinking to myself, “How come I am not mayor?”  Not only, why am I not mayor, but how come I’m not within ten check ins of becoming mayor.   How is that possible?  This exact scenario is happening to me at Planet Fitness, a place I visit 3 or 4 days a week.

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